Why you should stop thinking that what other people think about you?




We all read this kind of lines almost everywhere.But what is it? we born in a society in which we all have to think twice before doing anything cause in india we have to maintain our image good.

We all have some crazy thoughts,wild dreams to do something in life but we all are restrained by this thought "what other people will think about me if i do this?". This line is enemy of all youth in india.
This is a heart demon(a demon in our heart).

As all of you i'm a mortal too. How can i escape this heart demon? Many time i had read about it in everywhere. I like to read books so i have to face this line and thoughts of this types almost everyday. I tried to cope with it many times but i didn't get success. And for that very reason i stop reading that kind of books and start reading the fantasy novels. And many other things i didn't even think about doing anything when i am reading those novel continuously for days and nights. Then reading a novel i understand that i'm not facing my true self i am just running from my own problems and reading others good life. 

As we all know that inspiration always comes from anything this time i get it from those novels. i am saying that those are worthless just entertaining stuff but when i compare my life and the life of main character i notice that he is too facing those problems of his life different is just that they are other types of problems. So i stop reading novels and tried to face my own life "why can't i live like that MC of those novels?"

I tried my all might to face it's not is as the saying. But the feeling i got from living my true self,doing whatever i want (not bad things) to do without thinking what other people will think about me.

This is 4:00AM in the morning i was running recording every thought which passed my mind while running. When i was tired and get home i listen that recording again then i think it's actually good to do this. I have to do it many time in my life but i was thinking that what other people think about me. In where i'm living there are not a single person who thinks like me(yeah..not even a single). My friends are the same i never say anything what i want to do in real cause i'm afraid of that i will loose my friends if i will different from them(it's human nature people usually hangout with only those who match their thoughts and as i say earlier not a single person thinks like me. i am not that old too that my friends will like old farts who thinks like this. So i always afraid of being alone. But then i think that being with them also is giving me nothing else than regrets of not doing what i want.

And in my whole life(18years 11months and 20days) i first time ever i think of being alone living all people behind who don't deserves being with me. I not the hater of all people i respect that everyone has their own thoughts but if it's not match with mine it's worthless to being with these peoples. We all have these peoples whom we don't want to leave but you all have to get to know that if you don't move on all you do in future is only regrets. So doing anything we want without thinking what others will thinks is more important than regrets in the future.

When i was surfing about this on the internet i found something called"7 things to remember when being judged by others" by Bernadette Logue this not written by me but i think it will help you.

1. It's not about you, it's about them.
2. It doesn't matter what they think, it matters what you think.
3. You don't have to convince them of anything.
4. You don't have need them to know the truth, you need to remind yourself of the truth.
5. You don't need them to accept you or the situation.
6. You can't stop them judging, so focus all your energy on detaching.
7. If they're judging you about something you already feel insecure about, then it's a blessing in disguise.... 

This all i know right now about this topic....i hope it will help you.Best of luck for your changed&new  regretless life.

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